Mark K., one of our readers, emailed me just the other day:-
Danny, I find myself talking to a girl that you like just to find her looking for excuses to leave soon afterwards. This is happening too many times already! Please help, thanks!
And guess what, I receive emails like that all the time, so I empathize with Mark’s predicament. You see, Mark (and anyone else), most of the time, girls make up these excuses because they are bored or simply because the guys that they are talking are not very interesting.
And as we say here daily at PUADatabase HQ, boredom is a cardinal sin as far as seduction is concerned.
So you see, a lot of guys worry about how they can talk to girls and win their hearts over without sounding boring or becoming a complete nightmare in their eyes. If this is one of your biggest problems, too, then you need to start learning how to talk to girls and create situations that will ensure they will never want to leave you during a conversation ever again.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys tend to lose their focus along the line and end up talking about random things that make them seem immature or childish in the end. Then there are those guys who think they are amazing conversationalists and just take things easy, only to find girls showing absolutely no interest in them and turning them down whenever they ask for dates. We will help you avoid all these grave mistakes, so continue reading. 🙂
Conversational Seduction: The Art Of Charming Women With Words
Here’s the PUADatabase.com approach to conversational attraction. The key simply lies in capturing a girl’s attention by (1) knowing the right words to say, (2) when to say them and (3) how to say them.
Regardless of whether you are trying to strike up a casual friendship or actually win a girl over to eventually become your girlfriend, mastering the detailed tips in this mini guide will help you get the job done as needed.
Non-Verbal Ques Matter.
Some dating gurus will tell you that looks don’t matter. That’s hogwash. Before you even approach a girl, she will judge you based on your appearance and decide from your looks alone whether you are worth her time or not.
So, always make it a point to dress well and look good for any occasion. Don’t sell yourself short here. Looking good will only increase your confidence levels as well as reducing any anxiety or nervousness in your system at the same time.
Understand Reflective Anxiety.
A lot of the time, guys get so wrapped up in their own anxiety and nervousness that they completely forget that girls are just human, too. If you want to master how to talk to girls that you have never met before, just remind yourself that they are probably just as anxious and as nervous as you are. This should make you feel more at ease in no time.
The most powerful conversational seduction technique out there is fractionation. This is the tactic which is used by advanced seducers and it comes in many variants over the years (notably the “October Man Sequence” used by Neil Strauss as profiled in The Game). More on this technique later, but if you’re wondering how some guys are able to get women to surrender their phone numbers in less than ten minutes upon meeting them then this is the way they did it.
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The Art Of The Conversational Peacock.
When talking to girls, it would also be important to stand out and be different from the rest of the guys in the dating world. This means that you have to be unpredictable, spontaneous and unique.
It would also help to think about your words very carefully before saying them to make sure that you don’t ruin your chances with the girl that you like. Always have a laundry list of conversational topics handy. Make sure you don’t rush things either. This way, you can make every second work to your utmost advantage and keep her by your side for a long time to come.
Use The Entertaining+Interesting (E+I) Power Combo.
Generally speaking, girls won’t talk to guys unless they are entertaining or interesting. Preferably, they should be both, though, so pull out some jokes and witty stories from your arsenal to amp up the entertainment and really make your presence felt. It would be important to make sure your jokes are more mature than annoying, though; otherwise, your conversations could end sooner rather than later.
Show Authentic Attention (A²).
Now here’s the kicker: girls won’t talk to guys unless they show genuine attention and interest in them. You must know however that there is a balance when it comes to this. In other words, you can’t seem too interested in a girl (because that reeks of DESPERATION which is a huge no-no), no matter how much you might like her.
Instead, do this: put up a confident front and show her that you are worthy of her time. If you do this, she will instantly give you the chance to talk to her and prove your worth. Naturally, you shouldn’t forget that actions speak louder than words overall. Authentic attention is key to her heart.
Make Contextual Comments About Her.
If you want to seduce a woman verbally, then make her the conversation topic 90-95% of the time. In other words, stop yakking about yourself.
An easy way to keep the conversation alive is to make contextual comments about her. When you see a girl that looks bored, though, just point out how bored she looks. While this may sound too simple to actually work, the truth is that she will instantly realize how she is coming across and start lighting up more. So, if you are in line at the grocery one day and the cute girl at the cash register looks really bored, just say something like, “Whoa. Long day?” Just make sure you say it playfully and with a smile on your face. This will ensure the best reaction overall.
If you need more tips on how to keep the conversation going, read this guide.
When talking to girls, it would be important to pay attention to your posture and maintain eye contact. Again, non-verbal ques are important. If you keep slouching and looking down during conversations, then you will look like a scared and needy guy. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you should stare at her at all times. That might just creep her out altogether. In fact, if possible, make it a point to keep a smile on your face as you talk to convey your genuine interest in what she has to say and to look as friendly as possible at the same time.
With the tips mentioned above, you should have no trouble facing your fears of learning how to talk to girls from now on. In fact, you should be able to master the art of doing so with enough practice and time. You are sure to be surprised by how easy it actually is.
Of course, if everything else fails, you can always use fractionation on her. 😉